Consider your response to spilt milk and think what your automatic reaction is to someone else, like a child. Your response might have been indifferent, infuriating or a response that appears when you face any simple accidental event. The response is learned and it is not so important where you learned it or how. It is important that you begin to envision the proper response you want to have when facing simple accidents. Self hypnosis is a great practice to lead you to a change in your response.
Begin by knowing how your mind and body will be changing. A state of focused concentration is achieved during which you are susceptible to suggestions you speak or hear from a guided tape. These suggestions are planted deep into you subconscious and will have subconscious affects on your behavior.
Entering into self hypnosis is similar to relaxation techniques. You need to set aside about 30 minutes and find a quiet room and a comfortable position in which you can remain awake but relaxed. Begin with deep breathing by taking a cleansing inhale, then release all the negative feelings and stress through exhaling.
Continue breathing slowly until your heart beat is slow and steady then shut your eyes. Clear your mind of all distractions and begin to focus on relaxing your body from toe to head. See you toe muscles releasing the tension; as it flies away silently speak to yourself the word “relax”. Repeat each muscle group in your body also breathing, releasing tension at each group and saying your mantra “relax”.
When you have taken several deep cleansing breaths, see your image at the beginning of a staircase with 10 steps. You begin to descend the stairs slowly to step 5 where you will enter into a sea of calmness which is safe and there is no fear. The calmness takes on the feel of cool water splashing between your toes. Each step takes you into a full sea of calmness until you are flood in calm as you reach the last step.
The steps you are following will take you into a state of deep concentration experienced as a sea of light and calmness. You are ready to speak the challenge being faced. Speak as if you are slowly reading the words. “I feel angry when my child spills the milk.” See three packages in front of you and begin to open the first. Imagine light and confidence flowing from the package into your being. Now see what is in the package. It is a picture of empathy you can feel when your baby girl has spilt her milk. Enjoy this discovery and continue to open all the packages.
Close the experience by moving up the steps to the top and releasing any anxiety or fears that may be in your mind. A silent “wake up” brings you back into the now and you continue to think only good things. Practice this exercise of self hypnosis and begin to notice as new responses appear in your stressful moments. When you feel stress, trigger you body to respond by saying the word “relax” and feel the tension fly away being replaced with calmness.